Goldilocks was pretty audacious, wasn't she? She had a walk and felt a bit tired so she decided to let herself into a random house, critique some porridge and chairs and then have a nap in a bed that was "juuuust riiiight".
Some may say she was a forthright young lady who knew what she wanted and went and got it. Others might say she was flippin' rude and entitled. Either way, Goldilocks has become synonymous with describing a situation in which something is or has to be just right. There is the Goldilocks zone around a star where a planet is the right distance away so that its surface is not too hot or too cold for liquid water to exist. And there is a Goldilocks zone of confidence.
My passion and purpose is to help women discover their Goldilocks zone of confidence which I call Comfortable Confidence. So, what is that? And why bother?
Comfortable Confidence is confidence that feels comfortable for you.
It is an authentic confidence that helps to embrace change and step out of your comfort zones.
You know those comfort zones that are really safe and familiar? They feel a bit boring and beige and worn but they are really safe (very, very safe) so nothing bad can happen, which is great ... even though you are stagnating and festering and shrinking and shrivelling, that is fine! Because you are safe.
Yeah, those comfort zones.
We all possess intrinsic confidence, inextricably linked with our self-worth, but the meaning we attach to confidence differs widely.
To some it is being able to stand in front of a room full of people and bust out a career defining presentation, to others it is being able to leave their house with just a little less anxiety than yesterday. We may perceive a woman to be confident in the exact same moment that she is, in fact, feeling excruciating social discomfort.
Sometimes confidence can tip over into arrogant and selfish behaviours (Ahem, Goldilocks?) Other times confidence is in lack and life is not lived to its full potential, self-doubt takes over, situations are avoided, so as to keep hidden and small. (Ahem, comfort-zones?)
So, where is the Goldilocks zone of confidence? Not too much, not too little but just right.
Firstly, what does 'right' look and feel like for you? Because, folks, simply donning a hat, a pair of sunglasses and a pair of killer heels is not going to help you with comfortable confidence. (And also, it is not the 80s.) Pretending to be someone else's idea of confident can never last because it is not authentic and therefore exhausting and not sustainable.
Figuring out where, when and how you best trust yourself to do the right thing for you is the key to unlocking your comfortable confidence.
But, why bother applying Comfortable Confidence as a daily mindset?
Well, it helps you to:
Set boundaries to protect your needs and values with ease
Say no - kindly yet confidently,
Prioritise your needs amidst the constant 'juggle' of life,
Nurture authentic relationships,
Apply for jobs as the best version of you,
Advocate for yourself in the workplace,
Trust that your confidence is 'just right'.
Make decisions quicker and easier,
Remain strong during life changes and upheaval,
Lead with confidence in the workplace,
Run away from bears if they catch you in their bed, having broken their child's chair and eaten all their porridge. (Hmmm, I make no promises on this one.)
Being able to trust who you are, what you need and what you stand for in any given circumstance is what my next workshop is all about.
The Comfortable Confidence Workshop will introduce you to a unique blend of methods drawn from life coaching, positive psychology and actor-training. This immersive afternoon will help you to:
Step out of those oh-so-safe comfort zones,
Express yourself clearly - say what you want to say, how you want to say it,
Appreciate your body and understand the benefits of relaxation, posture and breathing,
Devise your lasting confident mindset,
Challenge your confidence blockers.
So, if you fancy discovering your lasting self-confidence >>>CLICK HERE<<< to book your place on the workshop. There are only 2 places remaining as of writing this blog, so if you miss your chance this time, don't worry, there are options:
1. Put your name on the waiting list and I will notify you if any places become available,
2. Wait for the next workshop in February 2025 by putting your name on the waiting list,
3. Book a Discovery Call with me and we can discuss working on Comfortable Confidence on a 1-1 basis.
So, whilst I do not endorse you breaking into a stranger's house, helping yourself to their muesli and reforming their memory foam mattress, I certainly do endorse you trying out a confidence that feels 'just right' for you so that you can live as your best self, for you and for those you love.
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