Confidence is not an attachment that you use every now and again. Not a bonus extra you add on once you’ve ‘sorted out’ the rest of your life. It’s the foundation. The starting point. It is the thread that weaves through every decision, boundary, relationship, and reinvention. Without confidence we get stuck. We say yes when we want to say no. We second-guess ourselves into silence. We shape-shift into versions of ourselves we barely recognise, just to be liked, or safe, or ‘

The mental mess that a reluctant yes can leave you with can be uncomfortable to say the least.